What Motherhood Has Taught Me…

“Making the decision to have a child – it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” – Elizabeth Stone

Being a mother is the most fulfilling and rewarding job on earth. May it be a planned or unplanned pregnancy, after giving birth or after adopting a baby, a mother’s life and heart is changed unexpectedly. Day-by-day, you will start to notice the changes in yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You tend to have a larger view of life and a more positive outlook on what the future holds.

I became a mother when I was 25. Back then, I felt so young and unprepared of the big responsibility that I will face. With God’s amazing grace, I was bestowed with a wonderful support system – responsible and loving husband, understanding and caring parents most especially, my mother, supportive in-laws and relatives. All of them, made my journey to motherhood a lot easier than what I expected it to be.

Let me share with you the things I’ve learned when I became a mother:

1. Loving unconditionally

Whenever we are asked to define love, we always say that true love is unconditional. Reality-wise, it’s really hard to love a person unconditionally, because in one way or another we expect that person to love us back. But, when I became a mother, I completely learned what it means. I love my daughter with all my heart and I am willing to do everything just to see her happy, contented and enjoying her everyday life. Her happiness is my  top priority. And I’m not expecting anything in return from her.

2. Being selfless

I learned that my life is no longer about myself, my needs and my wants. There’s a little angel who needs my love, time, attention 24/7. I already accept the fact that there are things that I can no longer pursue because my daughter needs me more than anyone or anything in this world. My own career took a backseat and I just focused on taking care of my baby, Keisha. It’s a big sacrifice but, definitely, worth it. I will never trade my daughter’s milestones to job promotions and recognitions. Well, this is me speaking, I don’t mean to offend working mothers here because I know you love your kids the same way that I do.

3. Being more responsible

I have always been responsible but having a daughter made me fully grasp the meaning of responsibility. Now, it’s not just about doing the right things but a continuous process of executing what is right that will be beneficial to my daughter and my family.

4. Be patient

To be honest, I don’t have much patience in my system. I easily get irritated when things don’t go my way. But now, it’s a different story, I’m a changed woman. I count 1 to 20 before I get mad. I really do my best to extend my patience even I’m already tired and exhausted. I can still remember Keisha’s first few weeks – late night feeding and bowel excretion, multiple diaper changes, sleepless nights etc. All of those took much of my energy and my patience. And, now, that she’s a toddler, I’m exerting more efforts to extend my patience.

5. I learned to love and appreciate my parents more, especially, my mother.

I think this is a realization not just for me, but to all the first time moms as well. My mama had been there for me all throughout my pregnancy, when I gave birth and up to now. The huge change had been so easy for me because of my mother. She’s there for me and Keisha every single day. She allowed me to have long sleeps at day because she knew I’m awake at nights to keep Keisha’s company. Would you believe that I was even able to manage and maintain my own farm in Farmville during my daughter’s first three months? Haha! Mama took good care of us without uttering any complain. I must say it’s a “mother’s love” to her daughter and her cute granddaughter. Up to now, that Keisha is 2 years and 10 months old, my parents always give us a visit and spend quality time with us. (once or twice a week consistently)

How about you mommies, what did you discover on yourselves when you became a mother? I’m excited to hear your learning too.


  1. September 20, 2012 / 3:02 am

    We normally get to appreciate what our mothers did when we become mothers ourselves. So i try to her how I care and love her better now than when i was younger because I understand better now.

  2. September 20, 2012 / 4:42 am

    very well put. its really hard to parent a child, we must have those qualities you have mentioned above to be able to care for our offspring.

  3. September 20, 2012 / 5:00 am

    I have the problem of my patience I do not know why but I am trying to be calm. I love my kids and I am trying hard to be a good mom…

  4. September 20, 2012 / 5:14 am

    I definitely agree with this post, motherhood has taught me a lot of lessons and until now I’m still learning in the process.

  5. September 20, 2012 / 6:04 am

    I also learned a lot in becoming a mother and what you said about understanding more our Moms now that we are also a mom is very true. I can already feel what they went through in raising us.

  6. September 20, 2012 / 6:23 am

    Me too, being a mother made me appreciate my mother more .I may not showed it to her but them inside me, she is the most wonderful person in the whole world. Motherhood really thought as the best in life.

  7. September 20, 2012 / 7:35 am

    these are so true. we learn a lot for being a mom. gone are the days that we selfishly only think of ourselves. For sure there are still more things to learn as we and our kids grow and mature.

  8. September 20, 2012 / 7:52 am

    Motherhood is one very significant period in any woman’s life. Although I’m not a mother yet, I’m already expecting a lot of changes in priorities and way of thinking when I become one 🙂

  9. September 20, 2012 / 9:43 am

    I gave birth when I was 21 turning 22 , it was way younger than you, I have on husband by my side, but I am thankful that I have my mom who supported me all the way too. I was never close to her but when I gave birth I realize the great love she has for me 🙂

  10. September 20, 2012 / 9:45 am

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  11. September 20, 2012 / 3:05 pm

    Oh. I love to be a mother and I agree on what motherhood has taught you. When I became a mom, I also became mature responsible person 🙂

  12. September 20, 2012 / 3:41 pm

    i agree with all of that on your list. motherhood has taught me a lot of things that i’ll never be able to learn anywhere else

  13. September 20, 2012 / 5:45 pm

    Motherhood thought me alot of things, From being responsible, i become more matured and of course i appreciate my parents even more now i know what they went through before is what am right now! I enjoy motherhood even it’s tiring and a lifetime job, it’s all worth it!

  14. September 20, 2012 / 9:16 pm

    Being a mother definitely has taught me a lot about myself and I have known a lot about myself that I have never known before. When I found out I was pregnant for the first time, I didn’t know what to think. I was part excited and worried a lot. Worried I might not be of a good mother and although I took care of a lot of cousins, but never really knew much about babies. I always worry about raising them well to grow up to be good and God-fearing people. Being a mother definitely is a rewarding job of all, although it is not always cupcakes and rainbows all the time, but the kids make it worth it. I don’t know what to do without my kids. I love them!

  15. September 21, 2012 / 3:28 am

    When a grown-up child finally understands how it is to be a mother, I call that coming into full circle.We all go through such process.

  16. September 21, 2012 / 3:46 am

    There are many things that I don’t agree with my mother on. But I have to admit that so many of the things I do now to my daughter, I learned from her 😀

  17. September 21, 2012 / 4:13 am

    Being a mom is truly one of the most exceptional job a woman could have. Either that child is her biologically or not, the fact that she raises the child as her own is what matter the most. and there, teaches us also how to become responsible in so many ways. 🙂

  18. September 21, 2012 / 10:11 am

    now we knew what our mothers went through and that made us appreciate them all the more. when you become a mom, it’s the instinct and the love that will teach us what to do.

  19. September 22, 2012 / 3:00 am

    So true. Being a mom changes us so beautifully inside.

  20. September 22, 2012 / 5:05 am

    All I can say is that motherhood taught me how to love myself for the sake of my family and kids well being.

  21. September 22, 2012 / 10:47 pm

    that is also one of my favorite motherhood quotes. i guess more than anything, motherhood has taught me about unconditional love + i never really imagined you can love another person so much even when you have not met him! cause that is exactly how i felt when i was just pregnant with my little man. i love him to too much, i’d give up everything for him!

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